How to handle a husband with a anger problem?!
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First, I hope that you are safe and willing to do whatever it takes to be safe.
Anger is a means to gain greater control. It sounds like your husband is using anger when he feels out of control. The problem is that your husband's attempts to gain control for him lead to less control for you. Your husband wins and you lose.
Are you able to determine what's causing your husband's anger? When heads are cool, perhaps the two of you can have a discussion and some mutual problem solving.
Another thing I sense about your question is that it's a problem for you and not for him. It's a lot harder to get someone else to change if they don't think they have a problem. If you can show your husband how managing his anger might be helpful to him then you might have another angle to use. For example, maybe things will go better at work or with other relationships if he can get a handle on his anger.
Finally, I would be careful to not escalate the situation when he's angry. Be peaceful. Honor what he is talking about but ask that he communicate it in a more peaceful manner. Hope that helps.
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Very carefully especially if you think he might become violent with you. Suggest he attend anger management classes at your local mental health clinic.
An anger problem?
Does he experience this lack of control with his boss? His buddy the kick boxer? Is this truly a problem of inability to control anger at all? or a problem of CHOOSING to give temper free reign when it's directed at certain targets? A few nights in the pokey has a way teaching the wisdom of better self control.
The website address I am about to list here is a great site to learn about abuse (a person hitting or touching some one in some way out of anger), as well as other forms of abuse. If you can't get to the website, let me know, and I'll try to list a different address for it.
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For that you'll have to understand the reason for his anger. Very often a man's anger is the reflection of his problems in life. Problems at work and problem in a relationship are the major ones. Men also hate to hear suggestion and remedies to thier problem (Mr know it alls!). So you have to dig deeper and find a solution
Someone individual may get angry if he finds anybody doing, talking, commenting, reacting or expressing something against the discipline of his mind. The problem doesn't persist if that discipline of mind is identified or otherwise understood.
You try to understand the discipline of mind of your husband. This skill of understanding will help you get the technic of handling the anger problem with your husband.
start going out, make changes,don't be around him so much, get a job or get read of the bum
my wife always charmed me out of any anger problem usually by not engaging in the fight i was trying to wage with her.
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