i have just had a holiday and i am suffering from 'after holiday depression'! he!
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I just came back home from a holiday where i did nothing but njoy and chill and now i am expected to go back in the same old routine. I don't know why but I am feeling kind of depressed, sad and tired. why is this happening ? help.
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I hope you'll forgive an answer similar to one I gave
earlier, but sadness, depression, all these heavy
feelings all tie in together. I think it's great that
you are looking at your mood and asking questions
about it. I understand your desire to stay away from
"sledgehammer" solutions that can be dangerous. When
it
comes to your health, remedies that are stronger are
not always better. I have three things that have
gotten me through times when I've been sad or
depressed, and they're all gentle solutions that I
think will suit an intelligent person like yourself.
1 - The first is what Freud calls the "talking cure".
He insists that it must be performed by a
psychoanalyst who you are paying for, but actually
I've performed it by writing in a diary. The key is to
be very honest, and try to find connections that you
might otherwise be supressing, because these are the
areas that need work. For example, what's the first
thing that pops into your mind when you think of
"depression"? If the answer is "flying a kite", then
follow the chain. What do you think of when you
think of "kite" and "flying". You'll be surprised
how quickly this takes you right down to an event in
your childhood or an unresolved conflict that might
have happened a year ago.
2 - Looking for lies. A chair cannot make you
depressed. A lampshade cannot make you depressed. Only
another person can make you depressed. I believe it is
because a chair and a lampshade cannot lie. Only a
person can lie. Depression, it seems to me, comes from
believing a lie. That conflict (between reality and
the lie) takes up so much mental energy to maintain,
it drains you as a whole. You may find, after using
technique #1, that it leads to you to this conclusion
#2. For example, after free associating your way to an
event, you might find that it was when someone told
you that you weren't worth a hill of beans. The
problem is not that they insulted you, the problem is
that you believed the lie. Beware, giving up on a lie
that we've believed in for a long time is tougher than
it sounds.
3 - This one is going to sound goofy, especially after
wading in deeply with the other two techniques. Get
some light to shine on the cells in the back of your
eyes. Go outside for an extended period of time
without sunglasses (no need to stare at the sun or a
light-bulb, indirect light will do). Use one of those
gentle light therapy products like www.everlyte.com .
Take a trip on a sailboat. Spend a few hours in open
fields on sunny days. It's those cells in the eyes
that produce much of the chemical that pills and
herbal remedies seek to replace, but the cells in the
eyes put the chemicals where they are needed, in your
brain, and not in your stomach and everywhere else.
This third technique will help you with the other two,
allowing you to think clearly, and get out from being
stuck in a loop.
I hope this "whole-istic" answer is as helpful to you
as it has been to me over the years. A gentle look at
the whole picture is often better than a sledgehammer
to just one piece of the problem.
Other Answers:
This is normal. Be glad you enjoyed such a holiday! Maybe you are bored with your job and want another. Look around for another one! Maybe it wasn't long enough-you don't seem to be coming back refreshed which was the point. Ask for more time off next time!
Life is like a roller-coaster. What I believe you feel is just the bottom rung after going up soo high. But the good thing is that you'll ride the coaster again and be on top. Just remember that since you had a great holiday, what can stop you from having another one? Look forward to the good times and make use of the in-between times to do what you have to do.
start planning your next holiday and before you know it you'll be so psyched about it, you'll forget about wishing the last one was longer! the key is to not look at it as though it was your last time to ever have fun again. turn your weekends or time off into mini-holidays more often so yougive yourself a break from the stressfull day to day crap more regularly. good luck!
The holidays are difficult for a lot of people. Generally the atmosphere is happy and upbeat. There are people who are going through different things in their lives. Being around everyone who is smiling, laughing and having fun can be hard to deal with because you are not on the same level of happiness. Talk with someone that you trust. Join a church. Start a support group amongst your friends. Everyone goes through different and trying situations. You don't have to go through it alone. You might be depressed, but don't let depression have you. You have a purpose in life. Focus on the positive. Stay strong.
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