i dont know what to do!?!
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omq! im so scared for one of my friends. She CUTS herself. i know this bcuz wen were at a bday party we were tellin our deepest darkest secrets and she told me that she cut herself. i swore to god that i would never tell no one and i guess i just did but i am really scared for her you know what i mean?! i dont know if i should tell my mom or just let it go and try to tell her to stop!! i am in a really bad situwaytion! please help me she is 1 of my best friends and i dont want her to get hurt but i dont want her to hate me for telling :\
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first of all, i know people are going to answer MUCH differently than me, but I've been through this (more than once) with friends.
a BEST or REALLY GOOD friend, would keep the secret. thats right. dont blab. if it bothers you, you need to talk to her. ask her if you can help. most people just do it for attention, others truly NEED the pain to stop thinking of what bothers them every day. Some people think that theyre 'rebelling'
And yes, she will hate you for telling. Even if she does want attention, she'll still hate you. kiss the friendship byebye.
Confront her. tell her it bugs you. it scares you. just tell her how you feel. say that you knew that it would be better to talk to her about it than someone else. they'll like to hear that. it shows that they can trust you. believe it or not, they smiled (inside) even if just for a split second.
Dont get mad. Don't say 'If you dont stop, i cant/wont be your friend!' this, is also a good way to throw away a friendship.
Dont push it. If they say they dont want to talk about it. Dont ask anymore. drop it. completely. BUT.make sure to say that THEY can talk to YOU whenever they feel the need. this shows trust.
I hope i've helped. But truly, don't tell. Even if it doesnt ruin a friendship, it makes it very very awkward. You wont be 'best' friends anymore.
SORRY IF I WAS TOO BLUNT! :)
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Get involved. Talk to her, her friends, her mother.
she needs help
you have to tell someone--you don't have to tell your friends and people that don't have anything to do with it.talk to your parents, her parents, a school counselor.
it's not being a friend to keep quiet about it, she really needs help.if something happens to her you will feel awful--so tell someone who will get her help!
be careful, try talking to a school counselor, or really carefully talk to her about it.
tell a principle at school and make it anonymous say that someone saw the cuts on her in gym class or something, also next time you ask a question PLEASE use spell check.
You should start cutting yourself too. Then your friend will see how stupid it is and stop. By cutting yourself you will save her life.
I don't know how old you are but you sound young. The best thing to do is talk to your parents about it and have them confront her parents. Your best friend might get mad at you at first but if the friendship is real she will forgive you and probably thank you for helping her. She wouldn't have told anyone about it if she didn't want help.
You have to tell, because you love her. All you can do is pray that everything will be OK. But yes i would say tell and just let her know you did it because you don't want to lose her.
I had a friend who used to cut herself, but has now stopped. What is important right now is that you are there for your friend. There is a reason why she is cutting. For my friend, it was tough times with her parents. For your friend it may be different. Try to lend an ear anytime she looks like she needs to talk. Keeping the lines of communication open is EXTREMELY important! If it continues, try to tell her parents annomously, so as not to drag yourself into that mess. You really don't want to get caught in the middle. If you can, tell your mom or dad or somebody else you can trust. ( I know that sounds liek a textbook, but it's the truth!) They can either help your friend or at least help you cope with the stress of trying to be there for your friend.
Good Luck! And God Bless!!
You cannot keep this to yourself. Is there someone you both trust? If you think you can trust your mom, tell her about this immediately and get your friend some professional help. You cannot do this alone and your friend needs your support. Yes she may be hostile and pissed off with you for telling but she will realise in time that you are doing this because you love her. Don't waste anymore time. Get help NOW.
Would you rather her die or hate you? You should seek professional help. She will eventually come to terms with you helping her. She will someday see that it took alot for you to seek help for her. And if she doesn't at least she is not dead. I would tell her parents because cutting is a serious issue. What if she is suicidal. Seek help for her. I hope this helps. Good luck with it. Hopefully it turns out for the better.
We studied this in psychology, it is a form of self-abuse, and she needs professional help.
I would check to see if there is some type of help line or support for her.
Read up on the subject.there is a lot out there.
Good luck.pray for her.
I will.
Dave
Don't ask people on this! Ask a psyciatrist!!..
if someone is hurting themselves, they need help, and i am absolutely positively sure that God would not mind that you broke your little swear.you need to get help for her fast, tell her mom, her dad, a grandparent, your parent, any authority figure that she respects, and get her help FAST. just try and be a good friend and ia can guarantee you that she will not be happy with you at first but you after she gets help, she will be glad you actually helped her even though it didnt seem like it at first. and also, if your friend is cutting, there is probably something else going on that her parents, etc. should know about. just do the right thing and youll be able to live with yourself because you know you did the right thing.
First, tell your friend your worried about her. Your friend obviously isn't cutting herself for fun. There could be a whole range of psychological/emotional problems and/or traumas causing this behaviour. Talk to your friend first and see if she feels comfortable sharing whatever is bothering her with you. Encourage her to talk to someone she trusts about this, and also seek professional help.
It's important for her to acknowledge that something is wrong in order for her to seek help. Auto-mutilation as this behaviour is called is serious business. i could recommend you some websites to read more about underlying motives to turn to this kind of act. Inform yourself a bit first before talking to your friend.
check out this website for information on teens cutting themselves:
http://www.selfharm.org.uk/index.php?section=info&show=What+is+self-harm%3F
i will start out by telling you that i use to be a cutter. i got to the point that i was cutting myself several times a day. i even got to the point that i was cutting my wrest. i had to go into a hospital to get help. now i have scars all over my arms and legs. if you are her best friend then you will get her help from someone you trust with this and will really help her. maybe she told you because she really wants help. after she gets help she will probably thank you for saving her life. you don't want her cutting her wrist and it killing her and you could have got her help. good luck and GOD BLESS YOU!!
Cutting is a form of self-soothing-- it's a way your friend uses to lessen pain that she has a hard time dealing with. While it's not likely that she means to kill herself, she does need to find another way to cope with what's troubling her, and she needs professional help to do so. You sound young? If so, you need to talk to a grown-up you trust (guidance counselor, pastor, neighbor), who can get her the help she needs. Your friend feels shame about this, so try not to make her feel more ashamed. And if she finds out you told, and she probably will, tell her you couldn't watch her wallowing in so much pain. She'll forgive you. Be brave! And good luck to you.
TALK TO HER,TELL HER YOUR WORRY AND ASK HER TO SEEK HELP
Talk to her and share your feeling, but don't talk to anyone else, it might make the situation worse
NO!
Theses people are wrong.
I do that, too.
That is something that your friend does for herself. Chances are that it will never harm her beyond some flesh wounds and she probebly doens't plan to kill herself (but you should probably ask her that question just to be sure)
Cutting will hardly harm her and ratting her out will get her put in a mental hospital to be absolutely miserable. That happedned to me and it's not fun.
As a friend, the best thing you can do for her is to keep quiet and to be there to talk to about it so that you know if she goes too far. She needs someone to confide in and by betraying her trust, you will just make things worse for her, for you and for your friendship.
You need to get over the fear. and PLEASE don't tell on her.
Source(s):
http://self-injury.net/familyandfriends/
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