Is blood thicker than water and would you stand by your Family or a child molest!
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If you found out that a man that was suppose to be a grandfather to your daughter and she came out and told you that he had been molesting her for years and he has been convicted of this before you tell your (mother) her husband did this and she believes you then wanted you to wait to turn him in so she could get settlement money that is waiting and you see your daughter hurting and because you decided not to wait for the choice is the 15 yrs olds whom tried to committ suicide for years and you had no idea why and just found out why then the mother decided that after that person she is with( the child molester) stated he don't know why he does the things he does and that he was a **** up and then tried to committ suicide becasue of too much guilt. What would your feelings be towards the whole situation. Could you stay with a man like that or be with your grandaughter who needs the support and your family. Is my feeling unjustified or would you feel angry with these results too.?
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all child molesters should be put to death..
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why would you even be with that person, your daughter deserves all the support she can get, and all realtions with him should be broken off family wide, she needs to heal and not feel any more sense of fear from him. BTW your first sentence is too long and rambling.
first of all, how horrible and my thoughts go out to the daughter. no way should you stay with a man who is nasty towards your daughter or anyone. thats just wrong and sick. they dont throw pervs like that in jail if it was ok. that girl will need your support and therapy. lots of hugs and understanding that its not her fault. its the pigs fault he is the way he is. no man or money is worth the pain your kids faced and still do in her head.
Well, I'm trying to make sense of this because it's all one long sentence. Short answer: Put the bastard in jail where he belongs and throw away the key.
support the child or now adult in every way possible to move forward and as for the molester he should feel guilt,but he needs help too and personally i don't think a molester can be cured!!
there is no choice the child abuser has got to to no amount of maoney would be worth a childs suffering.. and how dare that mother even sujust waiting for money i think u should not speak to her anymore if she chooses money over a child like that that is absultly aburd!
I would feel quite angry! I would stick by my grand daughter, she will need it more than he would. He knows better, he shouldn't have done it to begin with. I would turn him in and stand by my granddaughter's side. If the grandmother stick by her husband's side, just think.the granddaughter will be even more traumatized.and loose trust in her grandmother and maybe anyone else. A pure child's blood is thicker than a disgusting sinner of a man that shouldn't be called a "man"!
Thats really a long sentence. Questions like this shouldn't be asked. The question is "Do you care?". If you care then all ties to that person are to be broken. If you care you would leave that "**** up" person to there ****ed up ways.
I myself think Prison is the best place for them. Child Molester. Thats just disgusting and mean. How could you, with the knowledge, let a child molester go free? Its an insult.
Break the ties. Let her heal. Therapy. Its not her fault. Tell her.
This is a big part of her life too. Break all of the ties.
About the money? Dont even think about it. Leave it. Hes probably done it before and offerend them money. Dont take it.
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I would feel angry about the grandmother wanting to wait to get settlement money. It sounds so selfish. Especially with all the suffering your daughter is going through and will be going through. I would be pissed beyond all belief. I would not know what to do. I think you're justified in being angry.
argh.
I would stand by my family. I think your mother ( i hope i got it right) is in shock and denial maybe even has guilt of her own. I don't get her wanting the money part of it. That doesn't sound right or like the most important thing to me. Your feelings are justified but you can't change the way your mother feels. Your daughters grandfather hurt your child, period. He is ill. What he did was wrong and you have every right to feel hurt by your mom. Even if he tried to kill himself he has his own demons to live with but it doesn't excuse him for what he has done.
First of all, you have to go through the motions you can't deny that something happened. Getting angry is a start as crazy at it sounds. Second, start to think about all the events that lead up to this situation and try to resolve what you can mentally. Do not dwell on the things you cannot change it's a waste of time. Third, forgive. Hating anyone will do more damage to you than to the other party involved. Last and most importantly go to counseling for the parties involved.
That is one of the most selfish things I have ever heard.
That is her grandbaby and she is concerned with money.
I would not wait, I would take your daughter to get examined and then call the autorities. I would have done this the moment she told me. Take care of that lil girl and get the help she deserves.
really disgusting .
Religious people has no problem of these . They are cool , calm and high quality living according to the non religious people all statistics show these . And even religions have their own quality and pureness . And God has developed the religion according to society , literature and technology of the history days and give the last shape to it .
please choose your religion really and go over it and search for the best religion without the thoughts that evil media shows them like a problem . Religions are developed and come to a point from BC 2000 to AC 600 .
To understand what the Creator wants is more important for a person .
Creator has created us for learning and living the life the way it must be .
The "way" can be only taken by going over and choosing your religon . And living with it.
I hope and wish the best for you . And will pray for it .
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please take your children out . and call the police .
there is no way on earth i would stay with the pervert. the grand daughter needs people now more than ever and this will affect her for the rest of her life. anyone who knowingly sleeps with a child abuser is sick. i would string the b*****d up. this makes me so angry. i would turn him in, not for the money but just to get the filthy pervert off the streets and away from other children. they should be given life imprisonment cos they give their victims a life sentance.they are the lowest scum.
Your number one priority is your daughter. She has been through a trauma, and needs 100% of your loyalty. Forget about grandma's settlement and forget about ever having a relationship with grandpa. It ain't gonna happen. You are the mama bear and you need to protect your cubs!
Your daughter needs help and support - more help and support than you alone can give. She needs to speak with a counsellor who specializes in sexual abuse, incest, and trauma recovery. Reassure her that it is NOT her fault what happened to her, and tell her that you are taking her to counselling so that she can get support. Make sure she knows that counselling is not a punishment, it is a place of hope and healing.
Now, as for whether grandpa should be charged, he should. It is the only way he can get the help and rehabilitation he needs. And trust me, he needs help, not only so he can rid himself of guilt and suicidal feelings, but also so he can be rehabilitated against doing this again to another child.
However, remember that the child is the priority. Once you notify the authorities about grandpa, leave it in their hands, and focus your attentions on your daughter. You have to get her the help she needs so that she can have the best possible chance at recovery.
I know this is tough on you too mom, so please take care of yourself. You need to distance yourself from your parents, and don't take any guilt trips from grandma. Remember, you have to put your baby girl first at all times. You are the mama cub now. Protect your little girl. She is 15, but she is still a child.
I wish you and your daughter all the very best. May you have all the strength you will need to do the right thing by your daughter. Hope, hugs, and healing. God Bless.
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