Whats wrong here? did marriage change him?!
Question: Whats wrong here.? did marriage change him.?
I am 25 and am from New York and work there but am living in New Jersey with my husband of 4 months. His job involves traveling and i am getting really tired of traveling into the city for my job.I have asked my husband a few times if he would be into the idea of moving to NY but constantly says NO! and if i oush it he will snap at me. I moved everything i had to be with him here. He tells me to leave my job & get one here but i work in a major NY salon and have worked really hard to get where i am to just leave it. When he is away i am always alone as all my really good friends are in NY. also my husband has gotten slightly distant with me lately, and isn't the affectionate guy he was and is almost always with the guys. He use to treat me like the only thing that matters to him.I adore him so much. Did marriage change him.?
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this is a bummer. i don't think marriage changed him but something did. I know When I get married I want to be woth he person forever and want them to be happy to which means listening to their problems and working things out. you two have been married for 4 months and if he treats you like that he needs to get over himself. its seems like hes trying to controll you and its a good things your not letting it happen. You two need to spend a lot of time together talking or if he doesn't listen marriage counseling because you don't want to spend the rest of your life like this. Good Luck!!! I hope something works.Health Question & Answer
Maybe he feels like since you guys are married you should sit back shut up and be happy. He may not understand how you are feeling. When the both of you have time explain to him how you are feeling and how the commute is wearing you out and you are lonely. Certainly keep your job you worked so hard to get and keep touch with your friends. Marriage does not mean one person has to give up their life or whats important to them. Talk to him and straighten this out!! Yall should still be honeymoonin :-)Health Question & Answer
Share with him exactly what you have written here. It will help to start a conversation. Just share with him how you are feeling and what you are wondering about... You will learn a lot about your relationship from his reaction.Health Question & Answer
It could be a number of things why he doesn't show you the attention that you once knew. Perhaps he's tired, or i,ve known men just lost interest in their wives and sometimes has a person on the side, which i'm not saying is to be true. But things like this happen. As far as your job i wouldn't leave it because he says so. I think you both need to sit down and talk this over in the proper manner to come too some kind of understanding how to work this situation out. If people don't talk, then later on things tend to get out of hand.Health Question & Answer