I need MALE advice!! this is kind of long so if you're not mature enough to read it, don't bother....?!
Question: I need MALE advice!! this is kind of long so if you're not mature enough to read it, don't bother.........?
I'm a Junior in high school (grade 11)..
we first met eachother in 8th grade.. I turned around and he was staring at me so I smiled.. we sat next to each other practically the whole year.. he was really quiet, but some friends would tell me how he cracked on people.. he would always have my back like one time I walked in class and I guess I looked sad and he kept asking what was wrong or this other time this guy took my agenda and he was a lot bigger than me so I was just like "Corey.. give me my agenda" and he comes up behind me and intimidates him and gets it for me (it's stuff like that you remember about people).. he was messing around with this kid in our class but the kid didn't think it was funny (pushing him around) so I was like "leave him alone.." he laughed and pushed me a little bit but it made me mad and I pushed him back and told him dont ever touch me.. we didn't talk for the rest of the year.. we sat right next to eachother but it was like he would ignore me.. beginning of grade 9, he asked me out and explained that he was worried I didn't like him because of the whole incident.. I said "sorry, but I can't go out with you.." we didn't really talk to eachother over the next two years.. part of it because we didn't have any classes together and the other part because I was depressed and wasn't doing much talking.. I thought he hated me..
I'm in grade 11 now.. the bell had just rang and I was leaving the restroom while he was walking by it.. I don't think he recognized me much because I've been told I look a lot older and he was just looking like he was trying to think or something.. we were in the hallway and I smiled big and I was like hi, I haven't seen you in forever.. he kind of started the hug when I was walking near him and I hugged him back too tight (looking back) and a little too long.. (DO YOU THINK HE THOUGHT ANYTHING OF THAT.?.?) then we talked a bit and he brought up how he liked me in middle school but he was shy because of his accent (he's from Jamaica).. I was just like I don't care how you talk.. I told him it was nothing personal and I was depressed and that I didn't want a boyfriend.. then he asked how my past 2 years were and I was just like "they were a mess" and he's like "why" and I'm like "drama.." him-"at school" me-"not really.. at home" (that was so stupid.. why did I say that) I just really wanted to talk to him for a long time.. I really want to be friends.. he was friendly to me..
Do you think it was stupid for me to bring up my depression and drama at home.?
Do you think he thought something of the hug.?
Do you think we can be friends.?Health Question & Answer
we first met eachother in 8th grade.. I turned around and he was staring at me so I smiled.. we sat next to each other practically the whole year.. he was really quiet, but some friends would tell me how he cracked on people.. he would always have my back like one time I walked in class and I guess I looked sad and he kept asking what was wrong or this other time this guy took my agenda and he was a lot bigger than me so I was just like "Corey.. give me my agenda" and he comes up behind me and intimidates him and gets it for me (it's stuff like that you remember about people).. he was messing around with this kid in our class but the kid didn't think it was funny (pushing him around) so I was like "leave him alone.." he laughed and pushed me a little bit but it made me mad and I pushed him back and told him dont ever touch me.. we didn't talk for the rest of the year.. we sat right next to eachother but it was like he would ignore me.. beginning of grade 9, he asked me out and explained that he was worried I didn't like him because of the whole incident.. I said "sorry, but I can't go out with you.." we didn't really talk to eachother over the next two years.. part of it because we didn't have any classes together and the other part because I was depressed and wasn't doing much talking.. I thought he hated me..
I'm in grade 11 now.. the bell had just rang and I was leaving the restroom while he was walking by it.. I don't think he recognized me much because I've been told I look a lot older and he was just looking like he was trying to think or something.. we were in the hallway and I smiled big and I was like hi, I haven't seen you in forever.. he kind of started the hug when I was walking near him and I hugged him back too tight (looking back) and a little too long.. (DO YOU THINK HE THOUGHT ANYTHING OF THAT.?.?) then we talked a bit and he brought up how he liked me in middle school but he was shy because of his accent (he's from Jamaica).. I was just like I don't care how you talk.. I told him it was nothing personal and I was depressed and that I didn't want a boyfriend.. then he asked how my past 2 years were and I was just like "they were a mess" and he's like "why" and I'm like "drama.." him-"at school" me-"not really.. at home" (that was so stupid.. why did I say that) I just really wanted to talk to him for a long time.. I really want to be friends.. he was friendly to me..
Do you think it was stupid for me to bring up my depression and drama at home.?
Do you think he thought something of the hug.?
Do you think we can be friends.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
give him a chance and be friends.. If he turns out to be a jerk than forget about him.. And about the hug.. There is a big probability he saw it as way to friendly.. If you get me..Health Question & Answer
you can be friends and and i think he liked the hugHealth Question & Answer
I have no idea what that was all about...... I still have no idea if you're a guy or a girl, and if you mean like gay likeness or straight likeness...... You put too much stuff and jumbled it and now I am completely confused o..eHealth Question & Answer
i think it would be good if u were friends.. and i'm pretty sure that's what he would like to!! :) hope that helpedHealth Question & Answer
From what I can determine, I don't think it was wrong to tell him about your home life.. If the two of you have begun talking again, that's a good sign that you can be friends, if not more.. He may or may not have thought something of the hug, but I can tell that you certainly thought something of it.. I can tell from what you've written that you absolutely adore this guy.. It's just the way that you have put so much thought in the things he did for you, and the way you remember so clearly the time you've spent together; I think you are in love and afraid to open up to him, or even the world.. There is definitely potential for friendship, and absolutely potential for much more as well, if you would simply allow someone to be there for you and prop you up in your times of need.. Having someone to support you when you're depressed is a wonderful thing, and having someone to love and care for you when you believe the world does not really is enough to make every day seem special.. I would tell you to open up to him, unburden yourself so you're not constantly walking around stressed out by the world around you.. It really does help to tell someone your woes, it really frees your mind and allows you to relax a bit.. Don't be afraid to show affection either, it's apparent he was and likely still is in love with you, so perhaps you can make something special out of your life.. If you find happiness in love, that happiness will spill over in other areas of you life, and you'll find that your life is much easier and less stressful.. So go out there and catch things back up with him, you'll feel much better, even if you do just remain friends with him..Health Question & Answer
heyy im not a guy or anything to be too sure but i read the whole story and i really think you should try talking to him and be really good friends because as far as i can see if hes friendly to you im 101% sure friends wouldn't hurt him.. The whole bringing up depression thing who cares you said you said no big deal.. same with the drama at home.. NO BIGGIE =] ........ and a hug is a hug.. HE MIGHT still like you and be like wowow this girls hot and all but if you want to just be friends im sure he would LOVE to be friends with you.. give it a shot it wont hurt .. GOODLUCK !Health Question & Answer