What is the best way to deal with people who refuse to stop bullying me?!
Question: What is the best way to deal with people who refuse to stop bullying me.?
I have calmly but firmly told them that their behavior is inappropriate, and that it needs to stop. Nonetheless, they continue to harass me.
This happens to me in the workplace, and in my daily dealings with "friends" and "family". They seem to think that I am being too serious, and that I "just need to lighten up". The reality is that they boss me around, and take advantage of me.
So, seeing how they don't respond to my assertive verbal requests, what is the next step.? I would hate to have to do something as drastic as cutting off all contact, but I may be forced to do so. I may also have to bring in law enforcement to remove them from my home when they come over and start bullying me.
The thing is, I see myself as being assertive and confident, but most people still don't take me seriously. Why are there so many emotionally disturbed people who just keep coming at you after you've told them to stand down.? It's like they think they have some sort of right to mistreat you, when the fact is they don't.Health Question & Answer
This happens to me in the workplace, and in my daily dealings with "friends" and "family". They seem to think that I am being too serious, and that I "just need to lighten up". The reality is that they boss me around, and take advantage of me.
So, seeing how they don't respond to my assertive verbal requests, what is the next step.? I would hate to have to do something as drastic as cutting off all contact, but I may be forced to do so. I may also have to bring in law enforcement to remove them from my home when they come over and start bullying me.
The thing is, I see myself as being assertive and confident, but most people still don't take me seriously. Why are there so many emotionally disturbed people who just keep coming at you after you've told them to stand down.? It's like they think they have some sort of right to mistreat you, when the fact is they don't.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Sometimes, its a matter of them seeing something in you that they wish they saw in themselves, and actually can't deal with that, and thats the reason you're being bullied.
The problem is actually that they don't know how to deal with it. A lot of people that bully are very envious of the ones they're bullying.Health Question & Answer
The problem is actually that they don't know how to deal with it. A lot of people that bully are very envious of the ones they're bullying.Health Question & Answer
How do they treat one another.? If they treat one another as they treat you -- perhaps it is actually a sign of affection and acceptance. Just a thought.
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That will not work.
Show them you are tough and they will not screw with you and don't show any signs of fear.Health Question & Answer
Show them you are tough and they will not screw with you and don't show any signs of fear.Health Question & Answer
beat their ***. problem solved.Health Question & Answer
stab them
or just beat the **** out of them
whenever someone makes me look like a prick i turn them over
take care
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or just beat the **** out of them
whenever someone makes me look like a prick i turn them over
take care
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There is no one single thing you can do that will fix things at this point by the sounds of it.
Some of the harder facts of life.
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- people you work with don't make very good friends.
- These guys are definitely not your friends.
- The more people know about the way you are feeling and your daily routine the more they will take the pi**
- The idea that most people are good people is not true.
- They are behaving like this because you allow them.
- You can choose your friends but not your family.
- You should not rely on your firends for ANYTHING.
- You are not confident or assertive in your actions only in your decisions.
-Just because someone is good fun to be around doesnt make them worth having as friends.
- Its good fun to bully someone about it makes you feel stronger and more confident + stops other people from doing it to you. It feels even better when theres a bunch of you doing it + its funny as hell (this is an explanation not advice).
Ok dont mean to be harsh but this is the truth of the matter. You have go to get your self something else to do other than hang out with these people. Join a gym , anything just so you are not about when they come round.
Something to think about.......
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Imagine if a bunch of small children turned up at our door and asked if they could come in and play in your house..
- there's no way you'd let them do it..
- you wouldn't have to get stressed out at their responses because they are just small children, you'd probably laugh at them.
- You wouldn't feel obligated into entering into a discussion as to why either.
- You would physically stop them if they didn't listen.
- The whole encounter is not going to ruin your day
This is the attitude you need to be taking when dealing with these *** holes.
Action to take.
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- Cut all ties with these idiots. If they want to be your friend they they can be your friends at work.
- Find some friends you dont work with and dont even mention what goes on at work.
- Buy a German Shepard dog and don't let it associate with any visitors. People soon check their behaviour when they can hear a big dog barking away because its been put in a different room while people are there. Walking the dog will get you out the house a bit to.
I dont these people are ever going to be worth having as friends in the long run. . If someone doesnt enhance your life they are just someone you know and not a friend.
Try to be more relaxed in your decisions :)Health Question & Answer
Some of the harder facts of life.
=========================
- people you work with don't make very good friends.
- These guys are definitely not your friends.
- The more people know about the way you are feeling and your daily routine the more they will take the pi**
- The idea that most people are good people is not true.
- They are behaving like this because you allow them.
- You can choose your friends but not your family.
- You should not rely on your firends for ANYTHING.
- You are not confident or assertive in your actions only in your decisions.
-Just because someone is good fun to be around doesnt make them worth having as friends.
- Its good fun to bully someone about it makes you feel stronger and more confident + stops other people from doing it to you. It feels even better when theres a bunch of you doing it + its funny as hell (this is an explanation not advice).
Ok dont mean to be harsh but this is the truth of the matter. You have go to get your self something else to do other than hang out with these people. Join a gym , anything just so you are not about when they come round.
Something to think about.......
========================
Imagine if a bunch of small children turned up at our door and asked if they could come in and play in your house..
- there's no way you'd let them do it..
- you wouldn't have to get stressed out at their responses because they are just small children, you'd probably laugh at them.
- You wouldn't feel obligated into entering into a discussion as to why either.
- You would physically stop them if they didn't listen.
- The whole encounter is not going to ruin your day
This is the attitude you need to be taking when dealing with these *** holes.
Action to take.
===========
- Cut all ties with these idiots. If they want to be your friend they they can be your friends at work.
- Find some friends you dont work with and dont even mention what goes on at work.
- Buy a German Shepard dog and don't let it associate with any visitors. People soon check their behaviour when they can hear a big dog barking away because its been put in a different room while people are there. Walking the dog will get you out the house a bit to.
I dont these people are ever going to be worth having as friends in the long run. . If someone doesnt enhance your life they are just someone you know and not a friend.
Try to be more relaxed in your decisions :)Health Question & Answer