Men in 40s only please help?!


Question: Men in 40s only please help.?
My boyfriend is having erectile problems. I know he masturbates quite a bit before he met me. He had a traumatic experience with his ex leaving him and he tries to refrain from intercourse when he's with girls after.

A few times, when I did something nice like cook for him and or give him a massage and stuff, he gets really hard. Then we kind of broke up because he was just having too many issues and we needed to take a break. We kept as friends for a year. Talking and stuff and he told me that he's seeing a counselor, working on his past issues. He's also very deligent in taking his meds (his bipolar). So I decided to give him another go.

Again, he's having the erectile problem. I think it could be the meds, but I don't want him to stop taking them cuz he needs it. He told me its because of his age. I don't know. He is 13 years older than me.

I love him and I assure him that sex isn't a big issue, actually there are some other issues that I find still lingering that needs to be addressed. With sex, we can just use a toy, have foreplay. The thing is, he's not able to climax. I am afraid I just can't satisfy him somehow.

He initiates sex all the time. He just can't climax easily. Is it common for men in 40s.? He's turning 46 this year. I know he thinks that I am hot, but it's also making him insecure.

I just hope he doesn't want sex all the time because I just want to hug him. Everytime we try, he just can't get it up or climax and he has to masturbate alot and it just seems so tedious. Help.? Any suggestion would be appreciated. He did say he's going to see a doctor.
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You sound like a really nice person. Thanks for being so kind to a fellow 40+ male. We really need the support.
For the erectile problem he has to ask the doctor when he's there and get Cialis (or similar). His problems are not caused, or complicated, in any way by you. His inability to climax does not mean you can't satisfy him. Please don't be concerned.
Just as some 17 year old guys squirt in 30 seconds, so some older guys have trouble climaxing! You love him so encourage him to get ongoing help from the doctor. He's like so many guys (including me) of his age.
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Men in their 40's wont read all of this.
My guy is here in the room (he is in his 40s,) I was going to read it to him and type his answer to help you out, but this is too long.(and embarrassing)Health Question & Answer

I know I'm not a guy, but I'm 33 and my last 4 boyfriends have been over 44. One had a problem like what you said. My boyfriends all have been hispanic (puerto rican) and tell you the truth, with the one who had this issue, it was down to trust and insecurity. Maybe you should not let him iniate and maybe "spoil" him let a night be about him. Where if he does get hard but doesn't climax and he starts to get bothered by his thoughts... try to assure him. Go back to kissing him and maybe talking to him and keeping it light and romantic. It took me a while, but when that barrier broke... wow! He fell for me, but we couldn't make it work because of distances. :( We still keep in touch but now I had to move on. My new boyfriend is 45. My ex^ is 47.Health Question & Answer



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