Are certain jealous tendancies a symptom of OCD? ?!
Question: Are certain jealous tendancies a symptom of OCD.? .?
Let me start with my definition of jealousy:
A perceived threat based on some irrational view. Causes for this behavior stemming from low self esteem, feelings of inferiority, etc...
In every relationship I have ever had, I have obsessed over my girlfriends history. I am 38, and this time have had at least a few relationships. Each one suffered, and some ended because of this.
While I have many obsessive tendancies, and have been considered to have OCD, no official dignosis has been made. Rest assured, I check my doors a hundred times a night, and drive home at least once a day to check the stove, even though I don't even use it. My fingers bleed and ache constantly from biting and picking at my skin.
During my life, I have been cheated on in relationships, and my parents marriage did consist of infidelity. Many times I have been accused of low self esteem.
When a girlfriend even mentions an ex, I freeze. Immediately, I begin to resent her, and consider leaving. Given the choice, I would gladly take any physical pain I've ever known over this feeling. I would not describe this as jealous. Close, but it doesn't fit my own working definition. After 38 years, this is starting to take its toll. If it is treatable, both I and any future person I might date would greatly appreciate any information. Recently, I have become aware of this Relationship OCD. Sounds a bit contrived, but I'm interested.Health Question & Answer
A perceived threat based on some irrational view. Causes for this behavior stemming from low self esteem, feelings of inferiority, etc...
In every relationship I have ever had, I have obsessed over my girlfriends history. I am 38, and this time have had at least a few relationships. Each one suffered, and some ended because of this.
While I have many obsessive tendancies, and have been considered to have OCD, no official dignosis has been made. Rest assured, I check my doors a hundred times a night, and drive home at least once a day to check the stove, even though I don't even use it. My fingers bleed and ache constantly from biting and picking at my skin.
During my life, I have been cheated on in relationships, and my parents marriage did consist of infidelity. Many times I have been accused of low self esteem.
When a girlfriend even mentions an ex, I freeze. Immediately, I begin to resent her, and consider leaving. Given the choice, I would gladly take any physical pain I've ever known over this feeling. I would not describe this as jealous. Close, but it doesn't fit my own working definition. After 38 years, this is starting to take its toll. If it is treatable, both I and any future person I might date would greatly appreciate any information. Recently, I have become aware of this Relationship OCD. Sounds a bit contrived, but I'm interested.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
I was diagnosed with OCD at age 18. While I don't have the jealous tendencies you describe, I can definitely sympathize with others, such as skin biting/picking. I absolutely believe that your OCD is affecting your relationships; OCD sucks! Have you seen a therapist, or are you taking medication.? I take Zoloft, and it has helped me tremendously. I would suggest making an appointment with a psychiatrist or even your family doctor. Good luck, and know that you are not alone with OCD!Health Question & Answer
I have OCD but I have never experienced that. But it could be a form of obsession. Why haven't you seen a doctor for your OCD and started taking medication.? It was the best thing I ever did. You are going to wish you started a long time ago. Medication helps you with family, friends work and most important relationships.Health Question & Answer