Why don't I want my best friend to lose her virginity?!
Question: Why don't I want my best friend to lose her virginity.?
Why.?
She's been doing other stuff with guys for a while, but still has her virginity. Well when she's done with a guy if I ask if she's still a virgin and she says yes, I feel so relieved. I'm still a virgin too. But she's planning on losing it like Monday, and I dont want her to. I just feel like it won't be the same between us if she does, I don't know why. Why do I feel like this.?
also, I just don't want her to get pregnant or anything because I know she wouldn't keep the baby and told me that she'd probably get someone to kick her in the stomach.
Please help me. Why do I feel like this, and if she does lose it how can I cope.?Health Question & Answer
She's been doing other stuff with guys for a while, but still has her virginity. Well when she's done with a guy if I ask if she's still a virgin and she says yes, I feel so relieved. I'm still a virgin too. But she's planning on losing it like Monday, and I dont want her to. I just feel like it won't be the same between us if she does, I don't know why. Why do I feel like this.?
also, I just don't want her to get pregnant or anything because I know she wouldn't keep the baby and told me that she'd probably get someone to kick her in the stomach.
Please help me. Why do I feel like this, and if she does lose it how can I cope.?Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Well your right, things will most likely change if she does lose her virginity. That opens up the flood gates for all sorts of new and different things. I think in a way you feel like you will be left out of this because you yourself aren't ready to lose your virginity. Which is great, don't let what your friends do influence what you do. Even if your friend changes so much to the point that all she talks about is sex and the size of guys ~beeps~, just ignore it and make it known to her that you are your own individual self and want to keep your virginity and don't wish to hear about her experiences. Good Luck, and honestly if her mentality is that if she gets pregnant she "probably get someone to kick her in the stomach" she is WAY TOO YOUNG to be having sex.Health Question & Answer
support her in every way.Health Question & Answer
You like having that factor in common, and you feel a bit like if you no longer had that in common, your friendship would change and you'd be somehow left behind. Friendships (like everything else in life) change anyway, but at the risk of sounding dismissive, this isn't the monumental change you think it is. (This DOES NOT mean you should rush out and try to do the same...it just means that losing her virginity won't make her so much more worldly than you that you'll no longer be able to relate to each other; she'll still find life just as confusing as ever.) All the more reason to wait, when you think about it. Does this help you any.?Health Question & Answer
tellher about all the cons like stds, pregnantc( all can happen the first time)
here s check list to give to her
1. your BOTH 100% mentally, physically, emotionally ready.
2. you know all the pro and cons to sex like even with protection there is still a risk of gaining stds or getting pregnant. you also know that you can get pregnant the fist time and gain std the first time.
3. you doing because you BOTH are ready(#1) and not doing it to prove love or to keep someone.
4. learn as much about sex that way you at least wont go in it ignorant.
http://plannedparenthood.org.
I"m 18 a female and virgin(god damn proud of it) with a bf of almost 9 months and I'm still not ready for sex.
its your body you decide whats best about it but be educated on what your going to do to.
" you can love without sex and have sex without love"
e-mail me if you have any question, i be happy to help youHealth Question & Answer
here s check list to give to her
1. your BOTH 100% mentally, physically, emotionally ready.
2. you know all the pro and cons to sex like even with protection there is still a risk of gaining stds or getting pregnant. you also know that you can get pregnant the fist time and gain std the first time.
3. you doing because you BOTH are ready(#1) and not doing it to prove love or to keep someone.
4. learn as much about sex that way you at least wont go in it ignorant.
http://plannedparenthood.org.
I"m 18 a female and virgin(god damn proud of it) with a bf of almost 9 months and I'm still not ready for sex.
its your body you decide whats best about it but be educated on what your going to do to.
" you can love without sex and have sex without love"
e-mail me if you have any question, i be happy to help youHealth Question & Answer