How long do you wait before telling someone (bf/gf) that you take psych meds/ have disorders?!
Question: How long do you wait before telling someone (bf/gf) that you take psych meds/ have disorders.?
I was wondering because since I have recovered enough now from my illness and am ready to start dating again. However, I wonder how long I should wait before telling a girl that I am on meds and that I have depressive and anxiety disorders. I was wondering because certain things about my meds might come up (drinking, if she stayed over and looked in my medicine cabinet). What would you do in this situation.? Have you been there before.?Health Question & Answer
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I have been there. I don't like to wait too long. I figure it's better to let them know early. That way, if they're going to leave, neither of you wastes too much time (No, i don't have a fear of abandonment... :P) I just also think that honesty is important. If you want to have a future with this person, than you're going to need to be honest. That's what i think anyways, but obviously you need to do whatever works for you. I mean, don't just come out with it straight away. Get to know them first! You don't want to scare them away by blurting out really personal things on the first date. But i think that when it seems like it's starting to get serious, it's time to share. If they are worth being with, they are going to be understanding and supportive. That's my theory :)Health Question & Answer
Well, if the conversation arises then dont avoid it or anything. If you think this girl means a lot to you then I would try to find a way to work it into a conversation pretty early in the releationship, but if its just a fun dating relationship and not something that will get more serious then there isnt any real reason to tell her at all. I mean if you were going out with her for a year and she doesnt find the meds, then you just come out and tell her she might kinda freak. But its not your duty or something, like you have to wear a tag on your forehead saying "on meds, have disorder" and announce it to every girle you meet in a bar. But dont lie or anyting if it comes up.Health Question & Answer
I tell girls I am schizo on the first date. I have had girls who were totally fine with it and treated me like a human being, and girls who said that they can't get involved with me because their friend is schizo and he beats people with a baseball bat(true story). I like to tell right away because it turns out that ignorant people are the ones who get scared, and intelligent girls are the ones who know that it is a disorder that does not define you, it just gives you some symptoms. Intelligent girls are what I like so it is an easy indicator of wheter or not they have their head up their butt. I have had several girls tell me I am a wonderful guy and they want to be with me and help me when I need it because I am worth it. Unfortunately they have all been stank whores and cheaters or too whacked out for me so I am still looking. Everyone has to search though.Health Question & Answer
I'd not wait very long to be totally honest with your bf/gf about the symptoms you experience. There is something to the saying "forewarned is forearmed." It's much more kind to be up-front about these things with a love interest.
I went through a time of mental struggles as well, and I know that my bf appreciated the heads-up so he knew what was up when my behaviors were not typical.Health Question & Answer
I went through a time of mental struggles as well, and I know that my bf appreciated the heads-up so he knew what was up when my behaviors were not typical.Health Question & Answer
I think you should tell it before you get physical, atleast by 3rd date or something, so that they can make up their mind whether they want to continue or not. You don't have to tell them in the 1st date and scare them off, but 3rd or 4th date sounds reasonable. It will be early enough without having wasted too much of each other's timeHealth Question & Answer
I told her right from the start. i told her the day we met i have bipolar disorder with anxiety and psychosis, but that im medicated and getting trreated and getting stable. She understands, and about 2 months after we met we are now together. Health Question & Answer
Just be up front, they should like you for who you are, if anything they may not be to upset for you taking them but for you hidingit. If they don'tlike it then it wasn't memeanto be and they really donit understand you, and that they help youHealth Question & Answer
I think you should wait and see how the relationship progresses. If/When it gets to the point that you both are sharing more then you should tell then.
You don't want to spill everything as soon as you meet that might scare someone off. Health Question & Answer
You don't want to spill everything as soon as you meet that might scare someone off. Health Question & Answer
i have not been there, but you should tell her, think of it like a test to your relationship with her, if she loves you then she should accept you for you.
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