Help! How do I cope with this?!


Question: Help! How do I cope with this.?
Ok, well my mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer two years ago. This year it has gotten much much worse! She has had over 50 surgeries. The doctors say that she won't live much longer. She has been through ALOT!

I want to express my feelings and how I feel to my mom, but I just can't. I don't know why. I just keep all my feelings bundled up inside. I love my mom so much!! I don't know what I'm gonna do without her. I'm really scared. I want to cry everyday but tears just won't come out. Strange right.?.?

I wish this never happened to her. I want everything to go back to normal. I try to act casual and act like nothing is happening because I don't like to think about it. I don't know why but my feelings are all mixed. My mom is really annoying now, she moans and groans, she is really GROSS ( my dad cooked her oatmeal than two hours later, she was sleeping and she still hadn't finished her oatmeal and she was drooling oatmeal out of the side of her mouth) gross! I miss my old mom. The mom who was so outgoing and loving. Now she sort of is discusting, but I still love her. My feelings are all mixed up!! I can't cry, why.? I want to though. I dont know why she is discusting to me anymore. I want to avoid things, but then I don't want to avoid things. I don't know how to cope with this! It is driving me crazyyyyy!Health Question & Answer


Answers:
Girl, you need to wake up before it's too late. Put your feelings aside right now and be there for your Mom. How do you think she felt sometimes when she had to clean the mess on your bottom. Think of all the years she was there for you growing up and you know she would still be there right by your side if you were going through this. You have to put her first because she most likely will be gone soon. Denial is a tuff thing to get over but you need to do it fast or you will regret it for the rest of your life. If that had been my mom i would have been right there cleaning the oatmeal off her face no matter how grose i thought it was. suck it up, hard truth.. you might also want to get some counseling on the side to help you cope but you do not need to let your mom see those bad feelings of groseness that you have about her.... she is still the same person on the inside.Health Question & Answer

Take a moment and realize that is your mom and do everything you can to help her she is tru a hard timeHealth Question & Answer

Your mom has an advanced condition now. You should talk to your dad about it, imagine what he is going through. If your mom is in the vegetable state already, which from your description sounds like it. You should speak to your father about your feelings and both of you should bond about it. It will help you both cope with the changes for losing a mother, wife, and everything to you.

I'm sorry for your troubles. You are a strong young woman and you will get through this. Health Question & Answer



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