HELP!! Im slowly killing myself?!


Question: HELP!! Im slowly killing myself.?
I'm chain smoking cigarettes. I need weed to cope with this depression. I don't see a point in life because I don't see a future for myself. My relationship is bad. My financial status is bad. I feel all alone no matter who's around me. I am HOT tempered. Im lashing out in ways I didn't before. All my life I have stood quiet about being walked on all through childhood and even now that I'm 27. I feel like every person that I loved has betrayed me. My mom chose her husband over me at 14yrs old when I told her he abused me since I was 10. Till this day they are still together. I curse her out all the time,and don't feel bad about it.. My love life is full of tears, fear, fighting, lying, etc. (I think he cheated on me) It is getting so bad and I can't get out of this rut in my life. Im full of pain, anger, and the worse part is that I've been getting worse with time. My life is a piece of s@%t and I refuse to be sober and face it. I feel like I need the weed ,cigarettes,liquor, whatever to feel numb. Help! I think I might just end it after I leave my family a goodbye letter.Health Question & Answer


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Whoa, please don't end your life. My close cousin did just last month because he thought he was in a rut also. There are ways out. If you feel like your relationship is going to crap, just try talking with him. Think of some fun things to do to spice it up again, but if it is just hopeless, maybe it's not meant to be. If it is hurting you, end it. I know it may be hard, but you CAN move on and be happy again I promise !
Do you have a job .? Maybe you could get more hours at work so you can take your mind off of always smoking and drinking. If you haven't went to college yet, maybe you could get some grants and go to college ! That will definitely help you shape your life out. Since you are 27 you may get it practically free if you keep your grades up. Just go to a community college if you aren't ready for a university. You could get an awesome job and help straighten your life out.
And as for your mother, if she is stupid enough to treat you like that, just let her. You are an adult now and the best thing to do it just shove how amazing your life is now in her face. Do what makes YOU happy. Go back to school, fix things with your boyfriend (or husband.?), just look at the good and do what will eventually make you happy and shove it in your moms face !Health Question & Answer

There are organizations and people out there who can help you with this. Speak to your doctor, clergy-person, or a trusted family member. Obviously your mother refuses to see the truth, so there's no point in beating yourself up about it. If your partner has cheated on you, just put him out of your life and move on. You need to put your problems behind you and start fresh.
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Death is never the answer, it only causes more pain.

Try talking to a trusted friend, your doctor, or a counselor.

You'd be surprised who is willing to help you.

Just remember, no matter how bad things seem, there is someone out there somewhere who cares about you.

Don't give up.



Blessed be.Health Question & Answer

man i say u dont give a **** anymore and stop caring about tem and start a new life somewere far tat will help bro but wanna tak bout it reply me bakHealth Question & Answer

well the hardest thing to do is forgive
but you can't feel good on the inside with all kinds of mixed up feelings inside
talk to a psychiatrist about trying to forgive people
because when you do forgive people
you have the upper hand and you are the bigger person
you might want to get someone out of your life, like your boyfriend
sometimes it really helps to make a change like that even though its hard
you might need it

for the cigarettes they sometimes prescribe people an SSRI like wellbutrin to help you quit
but those are pretty bad for you
but you need to cut it out
if you did something like quitting smoking for yourself
that would make you feel better too

let out a good cry sometimes and try to be mature and
don't use crutches to help you
using those only makes you feel worse

you know whats wrong with your life obviously
and you can fix it

and some counseling would make you feel better about yourselfHealth Question & Answer

Gosh...I just don't know how to unravel this complex of emotional issues.

Before we go off the deap end, If you are no longer living with you father, I would suggest filing a report with the police. If there are two things that have no statue of limitations it is murder (which I do not suggest) and abuse. Send daddy away in the paddy waggon.

Secondly, have you considered seeking services of a halfway home for abused and neglected women. (I would suggest doing this before sending dad away, especially if mom doesn't believe you and would try to focus her anger onto you.) Preferibly find a halfway home that protects you from getting in contact with them.

Surrounding yourself with positive influences and positve energy could help you cope, even find help with drug and alcohol problems.

If you are at this point, do it now! The futher you can get away from whatever pain and anger that surrounds you the better. My suggestion, leave the cell phone behind. The less accessable these negative forces have in contact you, the better.

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The fact that you're crying out for help says a lot to me. Look back to who you were as a child, 8 years old, 13 years old, 16 years old...think of how quickly and suddenly your world changed and you changed for the good and for the worse. There will be new, better relationships, money is a renewable resource....all your problems can be solved. It may not be easy and you may not be able to do it alone, but things can and will get better. Whenever I'm in a rough spot in my life I think back to all the wonderful times I've had. How could I ever truly apprieciate those wonderful times if I hadn't experienced the bad times. Good luck to you.Health Question & Answer

I don't know you, nor have I been forced to deal with physical problems of the caliber you have, so to say "I understand what you're going through" would be a lie. I can, however, tell you that I've grappled with depression, addiction, and all that fun stuff over my short life and felt completely hopeless until recently, just as you do now. When I hit bottom I had lost hope completely, and, like you, saw no future for myself besides becoming a homeless addict. I've never been religious at all, but somehow, I simply stopped using drugs, smoking cigarettes and engaging in my horrible self-destructive habits, and instinctively went to church one day. Before I even knew it, my week revolved not around getting high, but around getting to be in the presence of God at the weekend. He loves and can help us, and I'm slowly but surely recovering.

Now, I truly believe that what you need is something to believe in. Maybe what you need to believe in is not religion, but it's as good a place as any to start. Even if you're skeptical, I implore you to take a chance and step into a house of God on Sunday (they're all pretty similar, just avoid the weird ones like Scientology ;)) and see if it doesn't fill the hole in your life at least a tiny bit. also, if ya just wanna talk by all means feel free to message me.

Best of luck, hang in thurr!
ZachHealth Question & Answer



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