People who are contemplating suicide?!


Question: People who are contemplating suicide.?
Why is it when, people who are contemplating weather or not to commit suicide, and you've already stated you have no one (however bad that sounds) people then say stuff like... "imagine all the people who will miss you when your gone, it wouldn't be fair" etc... and this then makes you feel worse because you actually have no one (You really don't) I mean do people just say this to try and make you feel better.? Or to make you feel worse... I mean I don't understandHealth Question & Answer


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Most likely they are not putting themselves in the other persons shoes there. They are just trying to say something meaningful to help but just missing the mark. At least they care no matter how inadequate answer is.

Most people are not psychologically equipped to deal with suicidal persons. They also have a great deal of difficultly understanding depression and how it changes your outlook on life.

Most people think of themselves first and others last, even when they are confronted with a person in despair they think first of how it will impact them.Health Question & Answer

Most people cannot judge another person and what they've gone through exactly. They do this to try to convince the person that suicide is a selfish act and it will hurt someone, even if you don't see the people it may hurt immediately. I agree that there are people who do care about youm, you just need to connect with them. I know that you may seem alone and depressed all the time, but just try to remember at some point in the past when you have had happy memories and you can make it.

Please tell someone, anyone that can help you. There are quite a few anonymous phone lines you can call.Health Question & Answer

It's not that black & white. It depends on the context and circumstances. Generally, they could be either reaching out for help and/or trying to get attention.

Take it seriously, the only thing you can do is strongly suggest they see someone, a professional. The best you can do is offer to listen and let them know your are concerned. You are not personally responsible for fixing them (thinking you'll talk them out of it), nor are you trained. Try not to get "sucked" into their "drama", it's their issue. If they don't get the help or intervention they need, there is not much you can do (you can possibly notify someone else).

You need to maintain your balance, it may mean you may have to walk away, especially if they don't seek professional help. And be honest with the person, let them know you are not a therapist, and there are other people far better equipped to help them.Health Question & Answer

It doesn't matter. By definition, someone contemplating suicide is not operating with a full deck, so you can't predict the effects of any statement you might make to them. They may or may not interpret what you say correctly, and they may or may not act appropriately on it, but it really doesn't matter. Suicidal ideation is a medical emergency which requires hospitalization, not attempts to rationalize with the person.Health Question & Answer

Most people don't know the right thing to say to someone in that situation. They don't mean to make the person feel worse. Someone comtemplating suicide needs immediate help. They may think they're alone because depressed people isolate themselves. Once they get the right treatment, they will start to surround themselves with friends and family again.
If you are thinking of suicide, call someone who knows how to help.

The suicide hotline is 1-800-273-8255Health Question & Answer

I think people say that stuff to make you feel "guilty" if you commit suicide...i hear that stuff all the time like "That's so selfish for someone to do that because they're not thinkin of anyone but themselves" and i understand their point of view but they're not realizing the hell that the person is going through and they are just trying to make that person feel bad about feeling that way instead of trying to help them. My mind has put me through hell and back(depression, contemplating suicide, anger, hate for myself) and i know how these people feel when they are thinkin about "ending it". People should not blame these people for how they feel they should just simply take time out of their schedules and help them through it. I personally think that people say that stuff because they feel guilty that you feel that way...I'm not sure if this answers your question or not but i hope it helps...and if your the one contemplating suicide you should try to seek help through an online group(try yahoo) if you do not want to go to a therapist although that would help you also...Best of luck to you! Health Question & Answer

of course it is said to make you feel better.
everyone has SOMEONE that misses them, thinks of them, loves them, whether we know it or not, its a fact.
surely ppl socialize, how can someone be a hermit, you have to work to survive, and in that, we have our co-workers, the ppl we pass in the grocery store. surely someone recognizes our existance.therefor, if we were to stop showing up one day, someone will acknowledge that we are no longer around.
regardless of how bad we have it, how sad we are, how lonely we have become,
there is ALWAYS, ALWAYS someone that is going to miss us.
trust, i know, because i have been on the brink to suicide, on more that on occasion.Health Question & Answer

I think that people say this so that the person knows that they are loved and that commiting suicide isn't the best decision. Unless if you are all alone, no family or friends period, then saying that you have no one would make sense. If someone is actually telling you that you have people that love you and will miss you, it's probably true. Even though sometimes you feel lonely and sad! Health Question & Answer

People say this to make you feel bad about considering suicide. I think it's extremly selfish.

One of my good friends killed himself about a week ago, and at his wak people would say things like "If he would have known what he did to all these people, he would have never done it."

Suicide is a selfish choice, and it puts people through a lot of hurt. My feiend felt like he had no one, but he did. He had a lot of people that cared deeply about him and a lot of people that were really hurt by what he did.

If you are considering suicide, please get help. Health Question & Answer

They are trying to talk you out of it. Yes, what they say makes you feel guilty, and I'm not certain that that is their exact intent, but their intent is to try to stop you from killing yourself.

Remember, your friends are not trained psychiatrists, so they are just doing the best they can regarding what they say to you. They are not intentionally trying to make you feel worse; they are just trying to find a motivation for you to stay.

Suicide is not a selfish act. (People who say this have no idea of the pain that this level of depression causes.) However, I very much do not want you to do it. I have suffered from major depressive disorder for thirty years and with suicidal ideation for twenty of those years, and I am still here. You want to kill yourself because your brain has inadequate serotonin, and once this imbalance is corrected, you will wonder why you ever considered it. You will feel like your "old" self again. Please contact your doctor, preferably a psychiatrist, and get an appointment right away. A simple medication will fix this; I wouldn't mislead you. I've considered suicide so many times, but I have a family I have to support, so it's not an option for me. But I know when I feel that way that it means I need to call the doctor because I need a different antidepressant or a stronger dose.

Until you get into the see the doctor, here are some things you can try to get you through the days:

1) remember you only have to make it through today, only today;

2) Rescue Remedy, sold at all Whole Foods and other health food stores. Use every fifteen minutes until you get some relief. It's OTC, no RX needed;

3) Serotain. also over the counter. I recommend the brand listed in the first URL below. It really helps me;

4) exercise. I know it's the last thing you want to do, but it does release endorphins, which can mitigate the depression temporarily;

5) meditation. It helps me to listen to new-age music with no lyrics. Don't do it if sitting alone trying to meditate makes you cry, though, and

6) get out of the house. One of the first psychiatrists I ever saw recommended this. I have been shopping with a red nose (from crying) countless times. I guess it's the additional stimulation that distracts you, but for some ridiculous reason, it does work. I know you don't want to go out, but try to force yourself.

Hang in there. The universe loves you and wants you to live. You can do it. You only have to get through today. Call today to get a doctor appointment, or, if you are a minor, have your parents call.

Let us know how you are doing.Health Question & Answer



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