Feeling lost and empty?!


Question: Feeling lost and empty.?
I've been feeling this way for a long time now, my parents and sister died in a car accident 18 months ago, we didn't have any other family apart from each other... I feel as if I have no where to turn and even if there are people out there who would 'listen' I'm not sure if I want to be heard I feel so pathetic because I know people out there have much bigger problems than me. I thought up to now I've been 'coping' It isn't enough. My boyfriend of 2 years and friend since childhood the two people I thought I did have left have been seeing each other for the past 4 months, I haven't the energy to cry anymore the way my life is going I doubt I'm going to reach christmas (which sounds awful for a 23 year old to be saying but I can't help it) I don't really have a question I guess I'm just venting...Health Question & Answer


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Hey ya hun
when i was 8 my brother and sister died in a car crash and you never really get over it but after a while you realise that life can go on with out those people being there i understand this must be harder for you as sadly your parents died too. the only thing i can really advise is that you don't keep this bottled up nobodies going to think your soft or being silly even if you just want to sit with them and cry or just have a hug. i understand that the pain you feel is terrible and it feels like it will never go away but just have faith in the memories that you had with your family


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im so sorry to hear what has happened to you, i thought i had it bad, all i can say is that everything happens for a reason and these experiences will only make you stronger.. try not to worry things will get better, i promise! if you need to talk you can always email me =]Health Question & Answer

Im not a religious man. Far from it actually. But some will probably point you in the direction of a church. Which may not be a bad idea, if you're willing.
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So sorry for your losses, and losing your friend and boyfriend to each other is just more grieving and that's the last thing you need right now. Just try to work on you, just focus on what issue is right in front of you, don't look ahead, you will feel overwhelmed. You can do it, I have had 6 people in my family commit suicide, on my mom and dads side put together, it was tough. When you don't feel like going out for a walk, force yourself. When you don't want to get out of bed, force yourself. You will get back into the swing of things ;) Just hang in there, I wish I could help you. But just keep on going!! Just remember you can do it!Health Question & Answer

I know how you're feeling when you say you don't think you'll reach Christmas. I was up all night last night crying, first depressed and then suicidal. It's a scary feeling. I've had a half brother shoot himself and a cousin hang herself. I struggle all the time with these feelings of hopelessness and despair, and I HAVE a wonderful husband who loves me, and two wonderful beautiful intelligent sons going to college.

I'm really working on not being ashamed of these feelings, and most of all, not hiding them. I had no idea my cousin was suicidal. We didn't talk. You need to let people know. Sometimes it freaks them out, but I'm learning to tell my friends and family that I have a constant struggle with depression, because it's too scary to take on by yourself.

This might be the most humiliating part of this disease. People can't see it, like they can a wheelchair or a cane. Maybe if more of the world could see all the hurting people, we might be a nicer place for them.

I'm so glad you posted, and I would love to be here from you anytime you need to let out any feelings or talk about things.

You say that you don't have any family. As much as you miss your parents and sister, you CAN allow them to live on through you. When I lose someone like my cousin, I promise myself to keep her love and some of her personality alive. I tell people stories about how we used to color together and listen to Captain and Tenille records. I don't even care if they don't care. I'm sharing my cousin with as many people as I can. She was loving and sweet and I feel an even greater need to carry those traits on to honor her.

You also probably have more family than you think. Have you ever worked on your family tree.? Do you know your family history.? Now that your parents are gone, it's very important for you to get their stories and pictures while you can.

I really love http://www.ancestry.com. This can be something you work on to preserve your family's history. I have found family members from the 1600s that I'm just becoming acquainted with through their records. I was 10 when my grandpa died, so I didn't know him any other way but old. Now, I have newspaper clippings about him coming home from Anchorage Alaska after working on the railroad there, and I know that he and my grandma were one of the first families to have a radio (thanks to the 1930 census) I also know that I am carrying on the genes of a man who managed to live 70 years and have 11 children in the 1600s when the average lifespan for a pioneer was somewhere in their 40s. I come from some strong stock, and now I have somewhere to look for strength. I know it's in my genes to survive, and I find I want to carry my family's stories on as long as possible. I can't do that if I'm not here.

If you can manage to go for a walk, climb some stairs, any kind of exercise or movement will help raise your seratonin levels and make you feel better. also, pasta, whole grains, bananas, protein, and milk will also raise it. Know that even though this depression stemmed from bad events, it's still depression and you need to treat it with the same seriousness you would if you had an artery blockage. You need to eat the foods and exercise to improve the feelings. I'm saying this, and I still haven't done it today either. Let's both force ourselves. I'll commit to 5 minutes on my elliptical if you'll commit to 5 minutes of exercise too :)

Where are you located.? I'm near Houston, Texas. If you're here, I'd love to be your friend. If you're not from around here, I would love to know about where you're from. Please respond back! Your letter really touched me for so many reasons. Maybe because your my children's age, but I also remember myself at your age. I had problems with it even then. Health Question & Answer



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