Do I have behavioural problems or do am I just looking too far into it?!
Question: Do I have behavioural problems or do am I just looking too far into it.?
I'm a 20 year old male and I live at home with my dad and his new family. My mum left us about 2 years ago and I seem to be the only person who keeps in touch with her, which seems to irritate my dad. Whenever I'm away to meet my mum I always try to avoid saying I'm away to meet her but he always catches on and makes inappropriate comments which just cause me to instantly lose my temper. Whenever I try to hold it back I'll end up going upstairs and I will break something which I seriously regret doing afterwards, like a playstation game (I ended up breaking my warriors game which left me quite dissappointed). I seem to get angry by the smallest thing. My brother is very smug and seems to think he's right all the time and one little smug comment from his mouth can cause me to go ape. They're always commenting that I have anger issues which I think is bull but they have been saying it all my life.
about 6 months ago, my best friend started smoking heroin and ended up killing himself. This caused a lot of problems between friends and I. Now I find myself angry and depressed. I think it's not exactly depression but depressed thoughts which in my view is different. For the past 2 years I have felt depressed and very angry at some points but the past 6 months I just don't know what's going through my head at times. One minute I will be feeling happy and the next minute I'll be feeling sad.
The past few weeks I have been feeling like I just want to break down. I don't know why I feel this way. I get the feeling that I have some issues that might need to be looked at but I'm not sure whether I'm just looking too far into this as I have met people before who make a mountain out of a molehill and I could be portrayed as that by people.
I sometimes get strange thoughts like I don't want to be here anymore. Do you think I have issues or am I just looking too far into this.? Please be brutally honest with me as I would be the same with you. Serious answers please.Health Question & Answer
about 6 months ago, my best friend started smoking heroin and ended up killing himself. This caused a lot of problems between friends and I. Now I find myself angry and depressed. I think it's not exactly depression but depressed thoughts which in my view is different. For the past 2 years I have felt depressed and very angry at some points but the past 6 months I just don't know what's going through my head at times. One minute I will be feeling happy and the next minute I'll be feeling sad.
The past few weeks I have been feeling like I just want to break down. I don't know why I feel this way. I get the feeling that I have some issues that might need to be looked at but I'm not sure whether I'm just looking too far into this as I have met people before who make a mountain out of a molehill and I could be portrayed as that by people.
I sometimes get strange thoughts like I don't want to be here anymore. Do you think I have issues or am I just looking too far into this.? Please be brutally honest with me as I would be the same with you. Serious answers please.Health Question & Answer
Answers:
Hi Paul,
It does sound like you're dealing with some serious issues. Your parents' divorce, your dad's remarriage, and your friend's suicide are all really stressful events. You are naturally going to have a lot of unpleasant emotions, anger and grief, after going through all of that.
If you get so angry that you lose control and break things, that is a problem. It's understandable and perfectly normal for you to feel angry, but you were probably never taught how to deal with it. Many of us weren't taught healthy ways to express our anger.
You really need someone to talk to so you can get all of this sorted out. This doesn't mean you're crazy or that there's anything "wrong" with you; I see a therapist myself and he's been extremely helpful. When you have a lot of unsettled issues and anger, it often takes another person to help you figure out what's going on in your head and what to do about it.
You can always write to me if you need someone to listen.
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It does sound like you're dealing with some serious issues. Your parents' divorce, your dad's remarriage, and your friend's suicide are all really stressful events. You are naturally going to have a lot of unpleasant emotions, anger and grief, after going through all of that.
If you get so angry that you lose control and break things, that is a problem. It's understandable and perfectly normal for you to feel angry, but you were probably never taught how to deal with it. Many of us weren't taught healthy ways to express our anger.
You really need someone to talk to so you can get all of this sorted out. This doesn't mean you're crazy or that there's anything "wrong" with you; I see a therapist myself and he's been extremely helpful. When you have a lot of unsettled issues and anger, it often takes another person to help you figure out what's going on in your head and what to do about it.
You can always write to me if you need someone to listen.
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You need to check into getting some psychiatric help right away. Sounds like you have a lot to work out.
Good luck to you.Health Question & Answer
Good luck to you.Health Question & Answer