Dealing with grief over suicide of a close friend. Suggestions?!
Question: Dealing with grief over suicide of a close friend. Suggestions.?
I found out this morning. I want to do something, maybe something creative, in honor of her. also, I feel like so many people just don't understand or don't care. I CARE. She was a beautiful, amazing person that went through some really terrible struggles. She wasn't trying to hurt anybody; she did her best to fight it. Nobody has any right to judge her. I just remember the amazing friend that she was. I really want to do something to show the world how awesome she was, and something that will help me to cope with losing her. Any suggestions.?Health Question & Answer
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I'm so sorry for your loss! I suggest that you do something in her name so that you and everybody else who knew her will remember what an amazing person she was. I know lots of charity organizations created in the name of people. You could speak, using her story as an example of an amazing person and friend. Some people don't know what real friends are. *raises hand* Go tell her story. That will show the world how awesome she was. I wish I could have met her. Peace be with you.Health Question & Answer
While it's fresh in your mind...write down all the neat things she ever did, ever said , and write all about her.
Then maybe you can get a short story published, about a beautiful amazing person, who died too young, instead of living for those she cared about, as we all should.
Maybe it will touch thousands of other people, and save lives, and help people direct their lives outward. People who live to do for other people , don't commit suicide. They are too busy.
It's only when people go inward with their thoughts, that they get depressed, and suicidal. There is so much good to do in the world... Health Question & Answer
Then maybe you can get a short story published, about a beautiful amazing person, who died too young, instead of living for those she cared about, as we all should.
Maybe it will touch thousands of other people, and save lives, and help people direct their lives outward. People who live to do for other people , don't commit suicide. They are too busy.
It's only when people go inward with their thoughts, that they get depressed, and suicidal. There is so much good to do in the world... Health Question & Answer
I know what you're going through. I understand the need to talk about and remember him, and i also understand how frustrating it is when people think you should stop talking about it. What i did was i tried to create awareness. Suicide, unlike other causes, is something that actually can be prevented through awareness. i used to give speeches in my class, or on facebook or myspace or just wherever i could, about looking out for signs and symptoms of a potentially suicidal person. i would also write letters to him that were personal and told my feelings toward him, but also told characteristics about him. i would post these for people to read too. that way you aren't forcing people to listen, but you feel like you are speaking to people about her. idk...it helped me. but don't expect the pain to go completely away. hang in there....God blessHealth Question & Answer
A collage of photo's hand picked and mixed and matched into a nice
frame would be really good. Its something you have created in her
memory, and also look at and remember the times you had and shared
together. The way I do a collage is by picking out the photo's I want, cut around them to make different shapes and overlay the photo's.
So you have one big picture with lots of different photo's.
I'm sorry for the lost of your friend, she must have been is a very dark
place to take her own life.Health Question & Answer
frame would be really good. Its something you have created in her
memory, and also look at and remember the times you had and shared
together. The way I do a collage is by picking out the photo's I want, cut around them to make different shapes and overlay the photo's.
So you have one big picture with lots of different photo's.
I'm sorry for the lost of your friend, she must have been is a very dark
place to take her own life.Health Question & Answer
That's a beautiful idea - to honour her life with something creative that expresses her and you and how you saw her and your relationship. I don't know what that will be, but I know you will live with the idea until, suddenly, something will blossom. Inspiration will come.Health Question & Answer
Follow in her footsteps, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.Health Question & Answer
Why dont you make a public demonstration of how horrible of an illness depression is and hwo it can take the most amazing of people. use her as an exampleHealth Question & Answer
u could join a support group maybe they will have suggestions. i'm sorry about your friend. Health Question & Answer
Everyone deals with grief in their own way.
A lot of people will still be in shock, and unable to fully handle what has happened, which means they may come across as uncaring, when in fact, they are just as hurt, bewildered, puzzled and angry as anyone else.
As for creative, do whatever you feel is right for YOU to do. If that is making a video tribute, then do that. If it's writing a journal of thoughts and feelings with pictures and the kinds of things she liked to do in it, then do that. There's no right or wrong; just what YOU want to express to help you to deal with what has happened.
To give you an interesting example, The Monty Python Show on TV some years ago, had an animated sequence at the start, which was pretty nutty. It concluded with a giant foot coming down and squashing... something.
When Monty Python member Graham Garden passed away, the team made up a huge 'flower boot' and put it on his coffin with the sign, 'stop us if we're being too silly'. A few people were offended, but most others not only got the 'joke' but adored the gesture.
Lastly, not now, but some time in the future, see if there is anything you can do for others as an expression of what she mean to you. By that I mean, volunteer at a youth centre or such-like; talk to other people you know who are going through their challenges, so they understand it's not them against the world, so to speak; and that other people DO care. Health Question & Answer
A lot of people will still be in shock, and unable to fully handle what has happened, which means they may come across as uncaring, when in fact, they are just as hurt, bewildered, puzzled and angry as anyone else.
As for creative, do whatever you feel is right for YOU to do. If that is making a video tribute, then do that. If it's writing a journal of thoughts and feelings with pictures and the kinds of things she liked to do in it, then do that. There's no right or wrong; just what YOU want to express to help you to deal with what has happened.
To give you an interesting example, The Monty Python Show on TV some years ago, had an animated sequence at the start, which was pretty nutty. It concluded with a giant foot coming down and squashing... something.
When Monty Python member Graham Garden passed away, the team made up a huge 'flower boot' and put it on his coffin with the sign, 'stop us if we're being too silly'. A few people were offended, but most others not only got the 'joke' but adored the gesture.
Lastly, not now, but some time in the future, see if there is anything you can do for others as an expression of what she mean to you. By that I mean, volunteer at a youth centre or such-like; talk to other people you know who are going through their challenges, so they understand it's not them against the world, so to speak; and that other people DO care. Health Question & Answer