Bipolar girlfriend, help!?!
Question: Bipolar girlfriend, help!.?
Today is exactly one week since the last time ive heard from her. We've been together for short period of time but it has been amazing. Besides her bipolar, she suffers from epilepsy and ADHD and obviously has her intense periods.
Times when we saw each other and spoken over the phone, we shared intimacy, love, and everything in between. We tell each other how much are love is, its incredible being by her side, even being aware of her health issues never stopped me from loving her for who she is. I stand strong, i really try. I do everything I can to keep us stronger but just recently I began to question her, her feelings for me. It's been one week since the last time we've spoken, it was over the phone..usual 'I love yous' and sweet dreams. This whole week I was laying in bed and thinking about it, checking my cell every other hour. Today is Thanksgiving, im afraid to keep calling even today, on a holiday.
I feel lonely and bit depressed. I've been truthful and caring, don't know why this is happening to us. Is she looking for space or ignores me because she can't handle it, I don't know. I just want her to feel better, I will always support her no matter what, I love her.Health Question & Answer
Times when we saw each other and spoken over the phone, we shared intimacy, love, and everything in between. We tell each other how much are love is, its incredible being by her side, even being aware of her health issues never stopped me from loving her for who she is. I stand strong, i really try. I do everything I can to keep us stronger but just recently I began to question her, her feelings for me. It's been one week since the last time we've spoken, it was over the phone..usual 'I love yous' and sweet dreams. This whole week I was laying in bed and thinking about it, checking my cell every other hour. Today is Thanksgiving, im afraid to keep calling even today, on a holiday.
I feel lonely and bit depressed. I've been truthful and caring, don't know why this is happening to us. Is she looking for space or ignores me because she can't handle it, I don't know. I just want her to feel better, I will always support her no matter what, I love her.Health Question & Answer
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This is very normal for a bipolar person. As you know, your girlfriend will experience severe mania and then depression, over and over again. It's a tidal wave, and you'll learn more about it just by being with her.
You need to be warned that this relationship is not for the faint of heart. You have to be very strong and confident in yourself, and you have to understand that your girlfriend has a problem that controls her emotions. She will think she hates you one minute and will love you like no tomorrow the next. She will say and do things that hurt you to push you away, and and then things you love to hear to bring you back.
It's going to be a roller coaster ride, but underneath she is still herself, she still has a personality, and she is still in love with you. And if you love her enough to stick with her, you need to be able to handle the emotional abuse that she /will/ give you. Being bipolar can make a person feel trapped. Sometimes you can't even understand for yourself why you are the way you are. Sometimes you don't even notice until afterwards that the feelings you have expressed are not your own. And it is the most awful thing in the world to realize that you have hurt someone you love over and over again without even meaning to. And what makes it even worse is when you realize that you will continue to hurt them over and over again without even meaning to. It makes the abuse the hardest part, because it is so difficult to comprehend and accept for both people.
But if you are willing, your girlfriend needs you to stay strong so that you can help her through. Don't give up on her, stand by her. It's not easy for either of the people in the relationship. When you feel like she is dragging you down, it will help you to realize that she doesn't want to. It's almost like being possessed.
The best advice I can give you for getting through the toughest periods is to give your girlfriend some space when she thinks she needs it, and make sure you are there with open arms when that mood changes. Always be sure to console her, make her feel loved even when she tells you she doesn't want it. Because she does. She wants you and your love, because she loves you just as much.
It's probably going to be the hardest, most emotionally draining relationship you will be in, but if you think she is worth it, don't give up. I don't know you, but anyone can see the amount of love you have for this woman. It shines through in your writing. And therefore, I believe that you can do this.
Good luck, from a friend. xxHealth Question & Answer
You need to be warned that this relationship is not for the faint of heart. You have to be very strong and confident in yourself, and you have to understand that your girlfriend has a problem that controls her emotions. She will think she hates you one minute and will love you like no tomorrow the next. She will say and do things that hurt you to push you away, and and then things you love to hear to bring you back.
It's going to be a roller coaster ride, but underneath she is still herself, she still has a personality, and she is still in love with you. And if you love her enough to stick with her, you need to be able to handle the emotional abuse that she /will/ give you. Being bipolar can make a person feel trapped. Sometimes you can't even understand for yourself why you are the way you are. Sometimes you don't even notice until afterwards that the feelings you have expressed are not your own. And it is the most awful thing in the world to realize that you have hurt someone you love over and over again without even meaning to. And what makes it even worse is when you realize that you will continue to hurt them over and over again without even meaning to. It makes the abuse the hardest part, because it is so difficult to comprehend and accept for both people.
But if you are willing, your girlfriend needs you to stay strong so that you can help her through. Don't give up on her, stand by her. It's not easy for either of the people in the relationship. When you feel like she is dragging you down, it will help you to realize that she doesn't want to. It's almost like being possessed.
The best advice I can give you for getting through the toughest periods is to give your girlfriend some space when she thinks she needs it, and make sure you are there with open arms when that mood changes. Always be sure to console her, make her feel loved even when she tells you she doesn't want it. Because she does. She wants you and your love, because she loves you just as much.
It's probably going to be the hardest, most emotionally draining relationship you will be in, but if you think she is worth it, don't give up. I don't know you, but anyone can see the amount of love you have for this woman. It shines through in your writing. And therefore, I believe that you can do this.
Good luck, from a friend. xxHealth Question & Answer
Maybe she freaked out about something, beeing bipolar and all that, could be that she mistook something you said or did. Talk to her personally and ask her, did you offend her by something... Tell her you still love her and wanna be by her side.
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Talk to her get the feelings out in the open,do not assume.Health Question & Answer
Maybe you should go to her house and check on her. A lot of times, bipolar people stop taking their meds when they feel good, and this often sends them into a down period. It's a scary thing. I know someone whose sister is bipolar, and when she takes her meds, she's great to be around. She has a great job (which is fortunately very understanding), she's witty and intelligent, and just generally a fun and loving person. But when she goes off the meds, she loses it. She usually runs away and puts herself in harm's way. If you truly care about this girl, find a way to get in touch.Health Question & Answer
first........ you need to look bi polar up on the internet...... it will give you ways to help, live with, and understand bi polar people......
she should be on mood stabilizers, people who are bi polar go from manic, that is an abundance of energy, to depressed......
adhd is a completely different thing...... you need to look that up also......
then there is the epilepsy, you are gonna have to look that up and understand it too......
the bi polar, and ADHD are the things preoccupying her, someone who is adhd, gets preoccupyed and doesn't seem to be able to stay focused on any one thing for any length of time......
you really need to research these things if you really want to be with her...... she must have understanding and support...... it is a lot of work for you...... but remember...... love conquers all......Health Question & Answer
she should be on mood stabilizers, people who are bi polar go from manic, that is an abundance of energy, to depressed......
adhd is a completely different thing...... you need to look that up also......
then there is the epilepsy, you are gonna have to look that up and understand it too......
the bi polar, and ADHD are the things preoccupying her, someone who is adhd, gets preoccupyed and doesn't seem to be able to stay focused on any one thing for any length of time......
you really need to research these things if you really want to be with her...... she must have understanding and support...... it is a lot of work for you...... but remember...... love conquers all......Health Question & Answer