Serious question. my wife says that I'm too rough in bed and that it hurts her, what else should I do?!


Question: Serious question. my wife says that I'm too rough in bed and that it hurts her, what else should I do.?
Even when she is well lubricated, she says it hurts her. even if I don't go all the way in. And I know that she dosen't get much pleasure when it hurts her and that is not good. Is there anything else I could do cause even when I go slow it hurts her when I move it in her as far as I can real slow it still hurts her. And I try not to go rough or anything, but she says I do, I think she just says that though. Another thing, when she is on top, she absolutely loves it and that is her favorite way. She gets her orgasms when she is on top, never when she's on the bottom. Is that weird.
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Well, I'd assume that she likes being on top because she's the one in contol - she controls how fast and how deep, and can tell what feels good and what doesn't.

Maybe try getting her to instruct you more when you're on top, so that although you're doing the thrusting, she's still the one in control.

It could also be the difference in the angle of penetration that's bothering her (you may be accidentally hitting her pelvic bone). Some alternatives to missionary can be found here: http://www.sexinfo101.com/facetofaceposi...

Reasons causing pain during sex can be found here: http://www.embarrassingproblems.co.uk/se... although I doubt they apply to her as she does not experience pain when she is on top.

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Then always let her be on top. And no, it's not weird. Girls have an easier time having an orgasm with when they are on top. .
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Her brian is the biggest sex organ she has. Strive for emotionally intimacy. I bet it will hurt less..
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She should also be checked by a doctor.Health Question & Answer

Has you wife seen a doctor about this or talked to one.? It could be something wrong with her female parts, have her talk to someone before you take take all the blame. In the meantime let her have the top position as long you both get the grand finale.Health Question & Answer

It's not weird because she is getting her c**t stimulated while being on top. Why don't you bring in a toy to the bedroom.? It can help get her aroused and make it easier for you to enter. Let her get hers first and then worry about you. Health Question & Answer

Not Weird at all I think that maybe there is a physiological Element to her pain if it is an ongoing thing.I would say go very slow with lots of for play or just let her be on top if that is more comfortable for her.Health Question & Answer

Her g-spot might be in a different place and you hit it right when your on bottom.

Maybe try stretching her out a bit with toys before she is on bottom.?

Or just give up trying to be on top and get your pleasure from the bottom.Health Question & Answer

No that's not weird, the question is do you get pleaser when she's on top because it sounds like you guys should just do it that way from now on.Health Question & Answer

Try putting a pillow under her buttocks when you are on top. It will tilt her peIvis and will help her. Some adult stores have pillows just for this purpose, they are shaped like a triangle and really do work.Health Question & Answer

it could be a number of things, it's prob not you, it just prob the positions your in! try experimenting on that and see what happensHealth Question & Answer

How about more foreplay.? It's not always just about the lubrication, the muscles need to be relaxed too.
And no it's not weird that she can only orgasm on top..Some women are like that. Health Question & Answer

Yeah, that's weird because it is suppose to be better for a woman on top than bottom. I think she's just pullin your leg.
Maybe she don't like bottom.Health Question & Answer

Seriously she'll get used to it. She's just tight right now... seriously.

The on top thing is not weird. My GF only orgasms when she's on the bottom.Health Question & Answer

be easy on her it is not the size of a coffee can. Be gentle those parts are very vital and can be hurt very easy.

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Maybe she just doesn't want sex.

There are videos you can watch that can help you, not porn lol. Health Question & Answer

Try doing different positions and paces until you find what she likes. She may have a medical problem have her talk to her OB/GYN about it.Health Question & Answer

Since she likes it on top it might be that her bottom area is to low down. Have you tried putting a pillow under her.? That might help her.Health Question & Answer

Well maybe that's just not her position. I don't think it's a big deal just find out what positions feel most comfortable to her. Then youtwo can **** all night.Health Question & Answer

I knew a girl that was exactly the same way. Any way other than her being on top was painful for her... Nothing we could really do but assume the position that felt the best for her...Health Question & Answer

It shoudln't hurt her all the time. She should see a doctor. (But I think it's normal for women to have better orgasm on top).Health Question & Answer

I love it rough.
Just give it to her how shes wants it to be given.
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That's strange because when the women's on top the penis will go all the way in.?.?.? Maybe shes just been a lil stubbornHealth Question & Answer

she should talk to her doctor about endometriosis. Health Question & Answer

Let her stay on top then. It's a lot easier for women to climax that way.

Try laying on your sidesHealth Question & Answer

TAKE YOUR TIME AND BE GENTLE.Health Question & Answer

Get her aroused first and it will lengthen her vagina. Try giving her an orgasm first.Health Question & Answer

be gentle, get her cheked up, maybee she has an infection.?

good luk pleasuring her.Health Question & Answer

Just sit and relax..Don't have s*x with her..Health Question & Answer

be gentleHealth Question & Answer

same thing happens to me sorry don't know other than be gentleHealth Question & Answer

Nah, it's not weird at all...I used to only be able to orgasm on top...but I kept trying in other positions and finally figured how to come every other way.

Where does it hurt.? If it's inside her tummy you could try gently pushing on her tummy...about where you can feel your penis inside her....that might help take some of the pain away...sometimes my tummy hurts during sex...especially when my husband's behind me but if he presses my tummy it stops the pain...and makes my orgasms more intense.

If it's her vagina that hurts then suggest she sees a gynecologist.

Maybe she needs to relax more...this will also her her to "come." If she is expecting sex to hurt she will tense her muscles and this will make it all the more painful.

Hope this helps and good luck! Health Question & Answer

I'm not understanding why it hurts her so bad....?.?.? Is it because you are too big.? Is she just really tight.? Maybe try using some sex toys to start things out and then try a different sexual position. You can also buy some lubricants and different things to help with the pain. Try going to a Private Lives store or another Adult Store and asking them what is available. Trying new positions is always a plus! It helps you discover new feelings and also helps out with finding the right one for you both to enjoy one another.
It's deff not weird for her to be able to *** faster with her on top. That's one of the best ways for a woman to get off. She's in control of the speed and technique.
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